Embrace the Longing

When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of distress and anxiety; If I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without any pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret in this for anyone who can grasp it. — Rumi

In everyday life we tend to be so caught up in constantly trying to achieve something that we never stop and ask ourselves Do I really want it? If we would do it, very often an honest answer would be No… In Surrender and Let Come we discussed about the importance of letting go of our plans on how life should look like to follow our bliss, step by step. This path requires the willingness to become comfortable with uncertainty. At first it might sound crazy to let go of control. We might think that this would make us feel completely lost. The truth is that there is always a way to understand where we are headed 🙂 We might have no idea how to get there, but deep in our hearts we all know our destination. Are you wondering how you can figure it out for yourself? 😉

A simple strategy consists in asking yourself What do I really long for? 🙂

Longing is loving something real before you believe in it. — Martha Beck

It is important to understand that longing has nothing to do with thinking that we want something. This is normally ego driven and has its roots in fear. For example you might be afraid of missing out on something or of not being accepted. Longing is a much deeper desire that comes from love. It is not something that you think about, it is something that you intuitively know. For example you might feel a longing for meaning, a longing for peace or a longing for being of service, just to name a few. They all come from deep within you and if you are brave enough to follow them they are going to be your compass along the journey 🙂 

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray. ― Rumi

If you are still confused and do not know yet what you really desire, do not worry. To understand it you can use the following meditation.

Sit still and relax your body for few moments. To settle in you can use one of the meditations suggested in How To Get Started with Mindfulness Meditation: Some Ideas to Help You Establish Your Own Practice. Then ask yourself the question What do I really long for? Do not think about an answer, just repeat the question slowly few times and allow images to come and go. Stay with it for a while and then open your eyes. 

You might need to repeat this over days, weeks or even months, but eventually the answer will come to you 🙂 It might happen while you are meditating or even during your everyday life, for example through a synchronicity. At first you might start to have some glimpses about what you really desire. It is important to find a way to incorporate this knowledge into your life. In fact, focusing your energy on it will allow it to become stronger. For example, if you feel a strong desire for meaning start doing regularly something that it is meaningful for you.

Repeating often this meditation can be very powerful because it allows your unconscious mind to express itself through images. We will talk in more detail about visualization and the importance of imagination in a future post 🙂

While going through this discovery process, always be aware of internal and external fear-based pressure and do not allow it to lead you astray. Just remain focus on what you long for and be completely open to receive it. When you feel you deserve all the best, you will start noticing all the blessings coming your way 😉  

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6 thoughts on “Embrace the Longing

  1. This spoke a lot to to me. I loved this line of yours “Longing is a much deeper desire that comes from love. It is not something that you think about, it is something that you intuitively know”

    Beautifully said😊

    Thank you for teaching me something new 😊


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